Being in a relationship will bring you happiness, love, and precious memories. When you are with the right guy, you will feel like you are the luckiest person in the world. However, in some cases, there is trouble in paradise, and some people may not be what they pretend they are. Sometimes boyfriends cheat without any reason, and when he is lying to you, that can lead to a lot of stress, anxiety, and even depression.
Finding out that someone is unfaithful is terrible, but it is better to learn this info sooner than later. If you think that you are with the wrong person and that he is lying to you constantly, there are some things you can do to verify this and catch him before it is too late. Here we are going to give you some advice on how you can do this fast and without getting noticed.
Notice strange behavior
Start by asking yourself some simple questions – is he acting strange, is he different than he was before, is he suddenly changing his mood and behavior around you?
See if they are trying to hide their phone and if they are always smiling when they are reading to their messages. If he suddenly starts to feel distant at some times, and at others, if he is showering you with love and gifts, something may be wrong.
People who are cheating have periods when they feel guilty and they try to make it up, and at other times, they won’t care about you or listen to anything you are saying. If you notice that he is changing the way he acts or if you notice differences in his mood, that might be the first sign that he is cheating. However, this may happen because he has other things on his mind, and he may be worried about work or other family issues. Don’t jump to conclusions right away, and spend some time monitoring the way he is acting.
Confuse him
If you think that he is lying to you and even cheating, try to ask him specific questions and see how he reacts. Usually, people who are unfaithful will have a good answer to anything and they will try and stick to the same story over and over again. People who are not lying will give specific details and they can forget a thing or two. However, if they seem like the whole story is rehearsed, it may be a lie.
Try to trick him with some questions and ask about random things. You can even ask who he was with and if they name several friends, you can act surprised and say you talked to one of them last night, and they didn’t mention anything. The way he responds will give you an answer.
Track his phone
This is the easiest way you can check if your significant other is being unfaithful without risking getting caught. Nowadays there are so many different applications that you can install on his phone and you will be able to read all the messages he sends and receives, you will be able to access his social media profiles, check his email, contacts, and you can even track his location.
According to SpyFone, you can install the apps on any device, no matter if it is Android or iOS, and you can see all the apps that are installed and being used on the other person’s phone. Most of these apps are free of charge, and they are hidden in the software without showing up on the main screen.
Just be careful because if your partner is tech-savvy, he may be able to find the app and you will get caught. Echospy suggests a couple of ideas on what’s the best way to track your boyfriend’s phone and you should check that out.
Verify his whereabouts
The element of a surprise is one of the best weapons you have against a cheating partner. If he is really unfaithful, then try to surprise him and see how he reacts. If you think that he’s cheating with a coworker, then show up at his job unannounced and see what he does. Do this if you believe he is lying about being in a meeting, and find a good reason to do this.
In case you don’t catch him cheating, you will need a good excuse, so think long and hard about this. The same goes if he says that he’s with friends throughout the night, and if he names someone specifically, try and show up with cookies or cake. That way, if it really is a guy’s night, then you will just leave the food and walk away. In case there are girls there as well, you will have a reason to confront him.
Call his buddies
This is another thing you can do to verify if he really was with the people, he says he was. In case he does not come back throughout the whole night, or if he turns his phone off, you can check where he was with ease.
Call the people he says he was with the night before, and ask if they have his keys or think of another silly reason. You can be nice and act like you’re generally asking and don’t sound like you are stalking your boyfriend.
During the conversation, you can casually ask that friend where they were the previous night, and see if they have the same answer as your partner. In case their stories don’t add up, you may have a reason to confront your partner and ask him where he really was.
If you feel that you are stuck with the wrong guy, these are the things you can do to find out the truth. Always be careful, and remember that if you have a gut feeling, chances are, you are right. If you feel that you are not happy with him and if he is not appreciating you it is better to walk away than to waste precious years of your life with someone who does not cherish you.
In case all of these things fail, and if it seems like he is the man he says he is, it is better to confront him and tell him why you are worried. If he does not want to talk to you and if he dismisses every fear you have, you should not waste your time with him. Even if he is not cheating, you deserve better.